My heart longs for genuine, real, and authentic relationships with other women. I have for as long as I can remember. I remember my first day of middle school at a new school trying on several outfits, wishing I didn't have to wear glasses, and secretly hoping that I had what it took to make new friends. I wanted to be wanted.
This topic of relationships has been heavy on my heart. I love how God puts the right people into your path just at the moment that you need Him to. I recently had the opportunity to chat with someone I hadn't seen in ages at a local Starbucks. We got to talking about this topic among many other things (she is one of those people you hardly see, but when it happens you wish it was all the time), and she said some things that have been stirring in me. Are you truly a real and authentic friend or do you just pretend to be? Do you nod and shake your head over coffee and laugh about life, but on the inside you feel jealous of your friends seemingly better life with more material possessions? You love her, but why can't your hair and skin look like that. She tells you a story about something going on in her life, and you are sitting there thinking about how you aren't as skinny.
Is this truth with anybody or is this just me?
I got in my car that day and realized I've done that. I've been that friend. I've nodded and smiled, but on the inside was completely comparing myself like it was a competition. This breaks my heart. This is not at all who God designed and called us to be. I love what I heard a Pastor recently say, "The internet and the people around us were not created to be our mirrors to which we compare, but the Word of God is to be the mirror in our life."
Comparison will eat away at every area of your life, and from it births a life of envy and pride. Both will destroy you.
I am so challenged to build authentic, real, and genuine relationships in my life. To celebrate the successes of those around and to quit the comparison game.
Let us join together and become the women of God that He has called us to be. Let us run the race He has called us to run unobstructed by the races of those around us. Let us join together and celebrate the successes of those around us. May we build genuine relationships that honor and glorify God and point those around us to Him.
Because really, isn't it all about Jesus anyways.